In my years caring for my Mom and patients. My Mom had some anti chocking powder to put in your drink. It was a thinkner. When eating they should alone. If they are upset or distracted they won't eat. They are always hungry and need several small meals a day. We also put safety bars all over the house. Especially the bathroom. That is the number one injury area of the house that could cause the most damage. We got her a gripper. It helps them reach objects easier. We got her an object to make it easier for her to do up her buttons. There always comes a point where you can't look after them anymore. If it comes to a break away from caring. There is respite care. Nurses will come to your house and look after them as long as you want to. Remember to look after yourself to. I know it seems impossible sometimes. If you have stairs. Get one of those wheel chairs that you can climb up them, or ramps.

Ways to Prevents Falls

Outdoors:
Use a cane or walker for added stability.
Wear rubber-soled shoes for traction.
Walk on grass when sidewalks are slippery.
In winter, carry salt or kitty litter to sprinkle on slippery sidewalks.
Be careful on highly polished floors that become slick and dangerous when wet.
Use plastic or carpet runners when possible.

Indoors:
Keep rooms free of clutter, especially on floors.
Keep floor surfaces smooth but not slippery.
Wear supportive, low-heeled shoes even at home.
Avoid walking in socks, stockings, or slippers.
Be sure carpets and area rugs have skid-proof backing or are tacked to the floor.
Be sure stairwells are well lit and that stairs have handrails on both sides.
Install grab bars on bathroom walls near tub, shower, and toilet.
Use a rubber bath mat in shower or tub.
Keep a flashlight with fresh batteries beside your bed.
If using a step stool for hard-to-reach areas, use a sturdy one with a handrail and wide steps.
Add ceiling fixtures to rooms lit by lamps.
Consider purchasing a cordless phone so that you don’t have to rush to answer the phone when it rings, or so that you can call for help if you do fall.

Nursing homes are good for older people. People under 40 should not be in there, they hate it. My Mom hated being with "old people". That's what she called them. Put them in group homes. They are a house or a small care center where you will find younger patients. They are specialized. They cater to different ages and diseases.

When care giving you have to have a lot of patience. Since they are slower to respond. My Mom in the end had a list of things that she needed, she could point at it.

A good way to gain weight is to take ensure, It is what they use in tube feeding and in the seniors homes I worked in. It does so much good. I would highly recommend that to anyone.

If there are lot's of falls on the hip. Then get hip pads. I had several patients with them. They work well.